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Mark Hutten, M.A.
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This channel is dedicated to people on the autism spectrum and is sponsored by Online Parent Support, LLC.
Podcast by Mark Hutten, M.A.: "We See What We Want To See" ~ Message to Neurodiverse Couples
Downloadable programs:
--- Interpersonal Relationship Skills: eBook and Audio Instruction for Male Partners with ASD- www.neurodiversemarriage.org/2023/09/resolving-neurodiverse-marital-problems.html
--- Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples- www.livingwithaspergerspartner.com/
Coaching services for autistic male partners:
--- Skype Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-asd-men-struggling-in-their.html
--- Skype Group: ASD Men’s Master Class: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/02/asd-mens-masterclass.html
Coaching services for neurotypical female partners:
--- Skype Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-nt-women-struggling-in-their.html
--- Skype Group: Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery.com/2021/08/recovery-from-emotional-deprivation-for.html
Coaching services for the ASD + NT couple:
--- Skype Group for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/10/mark-hutten-m.html
Individual coaching services:
--- One-on-One Sessions for Struggling Individuals and Couples Affected by ASD: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2019/07/skype-counseling-for-struggling-couples.html
Access to “Members-Only” videos:
--- Get your perks here: ua-cam.com/channels/UZG9TJ9LHwSfmHb4ogQmxA.htmljoin
Parenting resources:
--- Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children and Teens with ASD Level 1: www.myaspergerschild.com/2019/07/parenting-system-that-reduces.html
--- Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism: www.high-functioningautism.com/2016/10/parenting-children-and-teens-with-high_9.html
--- Discipline for Defiant Teens on the Autism Spectrum: www.myaspergersteen.com/
--- Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.autism-meltdowns.com/
--- Launching Adult Children with ASD Level 1: How to Promote Self-Reliance: www.launchingadultchildren.com/
--- Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management to Kids on the Spectrum: www.social-skills-emotion-management.com/
--- Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: aspergers-mystery.blogspot.com/
Human beings have a tendency to interpret the world around them based on their own desires, beliefs, and experiences. This phenomenon is evident in various aspects of life, including relationships, politics, and even the way we interpret information.
In our personal lives, the impact of selective perception is profound. In relationships, we often see what we want to see in others, leading to idealization or misinterpretation. For instance, in romantic relationships, we may overlook red flags or negative behavior because we want to see our partner in a positive light. Similarly, in conflicts, our biases and preconceptions can lead us to misconstrue the intentions of others.
Similarly, in the realm of politics and ideology, people tend to see what aligns with their existing beliefs. The pervasive influence of confirmation bias, the tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories, plays a significant and concerning role in this process. Individuals may selectively perceive information that validates their political views while disregarding opposing perspectives. This can lead to polarization and a worrying lack of critical thinking.
Moreover, the concept of 'seeing what we want to see' is relevant in the age of information overload. With the proliferation of social media and online news sources, individuals have the freedom to curate their information intake. In this environment, people are prone to seeking out sources that echo their own views and ignoring dissenting opinions. This selective perception can dangerously reinforce preconceived notions and significantly hinder the ability to consider alternative perspectives.
--- Interpersonal Relationship Skills: eBook and Audio Instruction for Male Partners with ASD- www.neurodiversemarriage.org/2023/09/resolving-neurodiverse-marital-problems.html
--- Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples- www.livingwithaspergerspartner.com/
Coaching services for autistic male partners:
--- Skype Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-asd-men-struggling-in-their.html
--- Skype Group: ASD Men’s Master Class: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/02/asd-mens-masterclass.html
Coaching services for neurotypical female partners:
--- Skype Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-nt-women-struggling-in-their.html
--- Skype Group: Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery.com/2021/08/recovery-from-emotional-deprivation-for.html
Coaching services for the ASD + NT couple:
--- Skype Group for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/10/mark-hutten-m.html
Individual coaching services:
--- One-on-One Sessions for Struggling Individuals and Couples Affected by ASD: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2019/07/skype-counseling-for-struggling-couples.html
Access to “Members-Only” videos:
--- Get your perks here: ua-cam.com/channels/UZG9TJ9LHwSfmHb4ogQmxA.htmljoin
Parenting resources:
--- Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children and Teens with ASD Level 1: www.myaspergerschild.com/2019/07/parenting-system-that-reduces.html
--- Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism: www.high-functioningautism.com/2016/10/parenting-children-and-teens-with-high_9.html
--- Discipline for Defiant Teens on the Autism Spectrum: www.myaspergersteen.com/
--- Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.autism-meltdowns.com/
--- Launching Adult Children with ASD Level 1: How to Promote Self-Reliance: www.launchingadultchildren.com/
--- Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management to Kids on the Spectrum: www.social-skills-emotion-management.com/
--- Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: aspergers-mystery.blogspot.com/
Human beings have a tendency to interpret the world around them based on their own desires, beliefs, and experiences. This phenomenon is evident in various aspects of life, including relationships, politics, and even the way we interpret information.
In our personal lives, the impact of selective perception is profound. In relationships, we often see what we want to see in others, leading to idealization or misinterpretation. For instance, in romantic relationships, we may overlook red flags or negative behavior because we want to see our partner in a positive light. Similarly, in conflicts, our biases and preconceptions can lead us to misconstrue the intentions of others.
Similarly, in the realm of politics and ideology, people tend to see what aligns with their existing beliefs. The pervasive influence of confirmation bias, the tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories, plays a significant and concerning role in this process. Individuals may selectively perceive information that validates their political views while disregarding opposing perspectives. This can lead to polarization and a worrying lack of critical thinking.
Moreover, the concept of 'seeing what we want to see' is relevant in the age of information overload. With the proliferation of social media and online news sources, individuals have the freedom to curate their information intake. In this environment, people are prone to seeking out sources that echo their own views and ignoring dissenting opinions. This selective perception can dangerously reinforce preconceived notions and significantly hinder the ability to consider alternative perspectives.
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Downloadable programs: --- Interpersonal Relationship Skills: eBook and Audio Instruction for Male Partners with ASD- www.neurodiversemarriage.org/2023/09/resolving-neurodiverse-marital-problems.html --- Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples- www.livingwithaspergerspartner.com/ Coaching services for autistic male partners: --- Skype Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-asd-men-struggling-in-their.html --- Skype Group: ASD Men’s Master Class: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/02/asd-mens-masterclass.html Coaching services for neurotypical female partners: --- Skype Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-nt-women-struggling-in-their.html --- Skype Group: Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery.com/2021/08/recovery-from-emotional-deprivation-for.html Coaching services for the ASD + NT couple: --- Skype Group for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/10/mark-hutten-m.html Individual coaching services: --- One-on-One Sessions for Struggling Individuals and Couples Affected by ASD: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2019/07/skype-counseling-for-struggling-couples.html Access to “Members-Only” videos: --- Get your perks here: ua-cam.com/channels/UZG9TJ9LHwSfmHb4ogQmxA.htmljoin Parenting resources: --- Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children and Teens with ASD Level 1: www.myaspergerschild.com/2019/07/parenting-system-that-reduces.html --- Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism: www.high-functioningautism.com/2016/10/parenting-children-and-teens-with-high_9.html --- Discipline for Defiant Teens on the Autism Spectrum: www.myaspergersteen.com/ --- Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.autism-meltdowns.com/ --- Launching Adult Children with ASD Level 1: How to Promote Self-Reliance: www.launchingadultchildren.com/ --- Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management to Kids on the Spectrum: www.social-skills-emotion-management.com/ --- Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: aspergers-mystery.blogspot.com/
Dear Mark, Shabbat Shalom from Jerusalem, ISRAEL. Lowell
I wish I dared to send this to him. Oh now i think about it....he did do that himself out of the blue a couple of times now....
In 42 years we have gone to a dance performance in May 2024 and to Paris in June of this year. Both were my choices. So… he has gotten to choose everything else.
How do you even get your nd hubby to participate in such things?I had a whiteboard on our fridge. I told him every day both of us should write something we love/appreciate about the other. I did it everyday for a month, he never did. So I stopped.
They are impossible to deal with, truly the wives are saints in the making
@@TheonewhomJesusloves895I’m an NT husband and I feel like a devil in the making 😔
Sounds that I have ASD
I have asd1....my gf has peri menopause.....is it me....or is she nuts? I can't tell because I don't know if I'm misreading her.
Mine will just take it as a demand and then refuse to do it because you told him to
Can do. Will do.
Get it done! 😂
📝✅
My brain is melting
--- www.asdrelationshipsolutions.com Offering words of appreciation to others is a simple yet powerful way to acknowledge the impact of someone's actions and to express gratitude for their presence in our lives. Whether it's thanking a friend for their support, acknowledging a colleague's hard work, or expressing gratitude to a family member for their love, offering words of appreciation can have a profound effect on both the giver and the recipient. When we offer words of appreciation to others, we not only make them feel valued and respected, but we also strengthen our own relationships and build a culture of positivity and support. Taking the time to express our gratitude can brighten someone's day, boost their confidence, and motivate them to continue their positive actions. Additionally, showing appreciation can also inspire others to pay it forward and create a ripple effect of kindness and gratitude in our communities. In our fast-paced and often hectic lives, it's easy to overlook the value of simple acts of kindness and expressions of gratitude. However, taking a moment to offer words of appreciation can make a significant difference in someone's life and contribute to a more compassionate and empathetic society. Whether it's through a heartfelt thank-you note, a verbal expression of gratitude, or a small act of kindness in return, offering words of appreciation to others is a meaningful way to foster connection and spread positivity.
My sister in law married what appears to be an ASD partner. We just thought he was the world’s biggest jerk, but now I’m starting to think he just has undiagnosed ASD
Thank you! This is something I, the NT wife have been doing since I began working with a Life Coach. Maybe hearing this from a man will help my husband try it! ❤
You are so welcome!
Dang bro. If we just stop getting offended, find ways to self-sooth and fill our emotionally needs why could you not make it work? If our spouse loves us and is trying why shouldn't we try?
Dear Mark, Shalom from Jerusalem, ISRAEL. Lowell -- MY TRIGGER ... talking to STUPID people !!!
That's an easy question now that I'm an adult. Anger towards the world used to dominate my mind simply because of the world at large refuses to try and understand people who don't fit molds, judging us , assuming what we think. And self hate because I don't understand the the world around and why I think and do things so differently then other people. Now we'll into my Adult years I'm in a better place.
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Spot on. Once they feel like they've "won" you they stop trying 😔
If it is my job to forget and not revisit, I may need something to erase my memory. It is a normal human thing to remember and to look back on things. There is no way to completely prevent that. I believe you can forgive and still recall. When we choose to forget, we make the same mistakes again and again and injury ourselves further.
Thank you for the reminder that I can't carry the burden without help.
Being married to someone autistic is like being married to someone with dismissive avoidant attachment style. Good luck
My husband is high functioning autistic and he constantly says he loves me but he is just really bad at showing it. He tells me to just take him at his word and have faith in him because he struggles with displays of emotion. I don't doubt that he loves me but sometimes I feel ignored and unappreciated. His love language is acts of service and mine is words of affirmation so a lot of times we both feel unappreciated because we both expect different displays of affection.
Oh gosh. This is so true and freeing.
We may be a bit codependent aren’t we…😂
We may be a bit codependent aren’t we…😂
I taught him to say “that bitch!” As a response to my venting!! Of course sometimes he uses it at the wrong time (eh, as a joke!!) but it really helps ME feel like he was interested in my vent and my feelings!
NT's don't understand and ASD spouses don't either. Great way to resolve on-going issues that continually resurface due to lack of understanding and communication from both sides. Great advice Mark! ❤
Downloadable programs: --- Interpersonal Relationship Skills: eBook and Audio Instruction for Male Partners with ASD- www.neurodiversemarriage.org/2023/09/resolving-neurodiverse-marital-problems.html --- Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples- www.livingwithaspergerspartner.com/ Coaching services for autistic male partners: --- Skype Group for ASD Men Struggling in Their Relationship with an NT Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-asd-men-struggling-in-their.html --- Skype Group: ASD Men’s Master Class: www.asdmasterclass.com/2022/02/asd-mens-masterclass.html Coaching services for neurotypical female partners: --- Skype Group for Neurotypical Women Struggling in Their Relationship with an ASD Spouse: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/11/group-for-nt-women-struggling-in-their.html --- Skype Group: Recovery from Cassandra Syndrome for Neurotypical Spouses: www.cassandrasyndromerecovery.com/2021/08/recovery-from-emotional-deprivation-for.html Coaching services for the ASD + NT couple: --- Skype Group for Neurodiverse Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2020/10/mark-hutten-m.html Individual coaching services: --- One-on-One Sessions for Struggling Individuals and Couples Affected by ASD: www.adultaspergerschat.com/2019/07/skype-counseling-for-struggling-couples.html Access to “Members-Only” videos: --- Get your perks here: ua-cam.com/channels/UZG9TJ9LHwSfmHb4ogQmxA.htmljoin Parenting resources: --- Parenting System that Reduces Problematic Behavior in Children and Teens with ASD Level 1: www.myaspergerschild.com/2019/07/parenting-system-that-reduces.html --- Parenting Children and Teens with High-Functioning Autism: www.high-functioningautism.com/2016/10/parenting-children-and-teens-with-high_9.html --- Discipline for Defiant Teens on the Autism Spectrum: www.myaspergersteen.com/ --- Preventing Meltdowns and Tantrums in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder: www.autism-meltdowns.com/ --- Launching Adult Children with ASD Level 1: How to Promote Self-Reliance: www.launchingadultchildren.com/ --- Teaching Social Skills and Emotion Management to Kids on the Spectrum: www.social-skills-emotion-management.com/ --- Unraveling The Mystery Behind Asperger's and High-Functioning Autism: aspergers-mystery.blogspot.com/
Man please I need help
😭
Dear Mark, Shalom from Jerusalem, ISRAEL. Lowell
I started crying watching this video. Between my fiancé’s work stress, a house that is a fixer upper, my dad with Parkinson’s living with us that has brought unintentional financial strain due to a struggle to get his benefits figured out, my mom diagnosed with cancer, multiple deaths in my own family in the last few years?? We are either breaking up and he wants me out of his life forever or we’re happy like nothing happened practically every week. He is struggling and I feel like I don’t get to deal with anything bad happening in my life or be comforted because at any moment we’ll break up because he is already stressed out. I feel unwanted and I just want my relationship back.
I enjoy sex. It’s been 8 months. I’m alexithymic in most dimensions. Not alexithymic in the sex category.
I feel called out, I’m the guy he’s talking about lol. Relationship just isn’t for me I think
ASD spouse here.... one of the best information on TY, so thanks for that. I think I scared my ASD partner away, I'm not sure we will be back together, breaks my heart. I had to write it somewhere cos I have nobody to talk about it, nobody would understand.... if we can't.....
When a lot is going on and I socialize and it gets even more overwhelming it feels like I'm in a physical fight or something like that I feel that adrenaline and my body can get shaky, my heart speeds up, trouble with breathing, discomfort in my throat, messes with my stomach, and then I'm exhausted later on I get like that just trying to talk to customer support or anything like that on the phone I even get anxiety talking to people when I'm playing a video game with my headset on ...
Well what a disaster for the NT - condemned to be alone when they are wired for connection..Very sad for all involved ..Disaster in a marriage and no solution - unless one just retreats
@@ActionmediaUK Even with Autism it is different from person to person you can have different traits in different people it is a broad range that is why it is called a spectrum. Some of us had help in school or in other ways and how you have been raised and so on. So as the saying goes “If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism.” There is great diversity within the autism spectrum. While the commonalities of people on the autism spectrum include differences in communication, social interaction, sensory receptivity, and highly focused interests, it’s important to understand that the constellation of these characteristics blends together differently for each individual. This is why some on the spectrum are good at mathematics while other may be good in their arts, sports, or writing - just like the rest of humanity. Autism is an extension of the diversity found in the human gene pool. It is hard to deal with us with us some times but it is hard for us also. And no one in the world is perfect.
@@ActionmediaUK I actually do have a interest in connecting with people but I come off awkward or say the wrong thing my "filter" isn't always there. And I can have trouble easing into a conversation or I don't know how to leave a conversation again making me look awkward. And later on I think back on the conversation with what I shouldn't have said or what I should have said. NT can think we don't care but some of us excessively care. It can be a problem too because we are spending time thinking about something that already happened when we could be getting something else done. There's a lot going on I could write about with my experiences but I think I'll leave it at that...
It's also a disaster for the ND. Not fun living with sensitivities that push you toward isolation.
Ain't that the truth!!!
Ain't that the truth!
She only sign up for the money that came from an engineering salary. She didn't sign up for loving you for who you are.
What’s depicted in this video is why men with ASD are so attracted to me… Generally I don’t do a lot of talking or gossiping, I do not see the point in gabbing to everyone about everything and they take that as me being LIKE THEM! Then they come after me full force because they want to win this woman they believe will understand them… They do everything to be the perfect man but for them it is not sustainable and then the relationship begins to crumble… What they don’t get or believe when I DO tell them is that I am just a private person… So when I am close friends with someone or in a relationship I DO talk. Not a lot unless there is something going on and I don’t enjoy one-sided talks… This is also why a lot of NT women get so angry with ME! They want to talk AT me always and basically just provide a therapy session for them once a week instead of a genuine, intentional friendship. If a relationship or friendship is always one-sided then it usually not either…
Thank you ❤
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Well done you brother.
Big up
I don't play that game, you tell me what's on your mind. I'm not going to sit there and try to guess. If you can't tell me. I can't guess, it works both ways.
Yeah, i guess i just came to attribute this all to just him being a man . Men are not capable of thinking as women and neither are women able to process thoughts as men . The things that captivated the sexes in the beginning have now begun to entice many to build walls of separation from one another. Love is not a feeling, however. Its a commandment to Christians
It’s closer to cars. Like driving an ASD car is manual and an NT car is automatic. I am capable of figuring out other people’s emotions and understanding them, just not very quickly. It’s usually 10 minutes after I’ve walked away from the interaction that i realize my mistakes.
I think you may have accurately articulated the demise of my last relationship in under 2 min.
Ive said to my husband that he doesn't want to be married, he just doesn't want to be alone. But, Im so over it and Im 70. Do I leave or stay in this lonely existence for the rest of my life?
I believe the guy I’ve been dating for a few months might have autism but I have adhd so maybe that’s why we’re running into emotional issues? Cause I feel a lot of emotional which is the opposite